4.25.2015

#MayWerkOut (round 2!)

Hey ladies! So over 200 of you accepted the may challenge (and I'm sure thousands more did in silence!) so let's get it together. We will start this Monday April 27 and finish on June 1st. I'm actually hoping that many of you will keep going with it even after June 1st. Like I mentioned on Instagram, it's really something everyone can do regardless of how you eat, where you are on your journey, etc.

 

I actually did a May challenge last year and it was really fun! I enjoyed seeing all of the other ladies join in and tag their posts with the hashtag.

 
 

 

 
 
 
 




Back to this years challenge... Ok, this May, we're going to do it a little different. I'm not going to tell you what to eat. Huh?!?! Nope, I'm not. We all eat differently and we all have different goals on our journey. For instance, weight loss is no longer my goal. Fat loss is my goal now along with toning. Low carb may not be the way you eat and that's fine, too! The rules for this challenge are simple. They are:


--- Walk or jog at least 50 miles for the month. I really want you to push for 100 miles (like what I plan to do), but I know that may not be possible for many, so let's shoot for 50. People underestimate the power of walking. Not only is it a great form of cardio, it's also good for your heart and mind.


--- NO FAST FOOD. Seriously, NONE! Not even a salad. Yeah... This is where the challenge comes in lol! For the entire month, I want you to be more aware of what you're putting in your mouth. Now, there is an exception to this. Because I still like to date my husband, I want to be able to go out with him to a sit down restaurant and have a meal. So I'm allowing us to do that if needed during the challenge. And listen, this does not mean sitting down in zaxbys to eat! I mean a restaurant with a waiter to serve you. Even if you decide to do this, I want you to be mindful of what it is you're eating. This isn't a "cheat" day. It's an outing with a friend or loved one where you don't have to cook. Got it? Awesome!


--- Water Water Water! Ladies, drink the water! Let's try for 100oz a day. Chug girl, chug! Feel free to add mint, lemon, etc to your water, but only drink water for this month. Please?!?!


--- let's WERK those abs and legs this months. Every other day, I want you to work your legs. Lunges, squats, calf raises, etc. are some examples. We're going to WERK abs everyday. Planking, crunches, sit-ups, whatever! We're core building/strengthening this month ladies!


That's pretty much it! The hashtag we'll be using for this challenge is #MayWerkOut2. Please ladies, only post if you're actually doing something that this challenge consist of. We don't need random posts taking over the hashtag:-)


Oh and lastly, if you need help with where to start, I think my eBook will help. You can find it by clicking here or the weight loss tab above! Make sure you open it on a device where you can save it otherwise it won't open again (which really sucks).

 

Let's WERK!

Lakeitha



 

 

 

 

 

4.01.2015

When inspiration goes viral

Yesterday I shared a picture on Facebook. Very spur of the moment and I didn't think anything of when I did it. I always post on Instagram so I figured I'd share something exclusively to Facebook. What I didn't realize was that the random unmarked photo was going to go viral!
 
 
Holy cow! Over 1.5 million people saw that picture. SAW MY STOMACH for that matter.... Ahhhh! It's one thing for my regular peeps to see it, I mean, we're like family now lol, but for nearly 2 million people I don't "know" to see it was mind blowing! For all of my new peeps that don't know my story, I know it may seem a little questionable seeing someone with such a large midsection and then right next to it, the same person with a smaller midsection, but that's really me then and now. Let's get acquainted, shall we?
 
I'm Lakeitha. I'm a 32 year old wife and mother to three boys. I live in Georgia. I started my weight loss journey back in Seotember 2013 weighing 280lbs. I was at a very low point in my life at the time and I decided to do something for myself. I told myself to dedicate one whole year to getting healthy while setting a goal to hopefully lose 100lbs in the process. I lost those 100lbs one week shy of a year! I (honest to goodness) changed the way I ate which was lean meats, veggies, fruit, and whole grains. I only drink water and I walked for 1 hour a day, 5 days a week. After my first 6 months, I had lost 54lbs. That's when I decided to switch to low carb. I eat meat and veggies along with a few berries here and there (though I plan to eat more fruit soon!). I still only drink water. I love cardio, but have also added a few other various workouts to my regimen. It's been 1 1/2 years since I started. I'm now 165lbs.
 
To answer a few questions:
no, I didn't have surgery at all.
No, I didn't use any waist trainers (they stole my pics).
Yes, it is possible for you to do it.
Yes, that's all I did. Changed the way I ate, drink water, and move more.
 
I wrote a 30 page eBook that explains everything from my journey. It gives you a grocery list (low carb and low fat), 2 different types on menus, answers to all of my frequently asked question, a list of exercises I do, and more! You can find that here  or by clicking the weight loss tab at the top of my blog (please save it before opening it). If you're not interested in the ebook, you can see my journey in its entirety on Instagram (@lakeitha_duncan).
 
 
I hope that helped you to get to know a little more about me. I'm really no different than you. I'm a girl that was ready to CHANGE so I did.
 
Thank you for reaching out. Stay inspired,
Lakeitha

3.29.2015

GIRL BYE {dismissing people from your life}










Shirt was a birthday gift from my crazy sister in law. She knows me so well lol! You can find it here.

Why do we hold on to people we know good and well aren't good for us? We hold on to people that downright hazardous in our lives and then when we realize that, we then question ourselves and if our thoughts are valid. Don't get me wrong, everyone can't be cut completely from our lives, but those that can should, and those that can't, but need to be, give them the greatest amount of distance possible.
Dr. Maya Angelou said, "when people show you who they are the first time, believe them." But nah, we want to prove to ourselves that they're actually who "WE" believe they are. I have removed immediate family members from my life and given others their well deserved distance, but then there are others where I'm like "but maybe it can work. Maybe it's me. Maybe....". How about maybe you're better off without them and it's time for you to admit that to yourself?
Have nothing in your life that you don't believe to be good. I truly believe that the wrong people and their toxic vibes can detour you from reaching your highest potential. Remember the phrase "Good Vibes Only" and be ok with saying girl (or boy), bye!

Images by the fabulous Kaye McCoy!

Stay inspired,
Lakeitha


3.06.2015

FASHION FRIDAY: grey area

 
 

 
Jacket // Shirt // Jeans// Bag// Shoes
So I have a question, can men and women be "friends"? Or is it either hooking up or nothing at all? You know, no grey area... And if you do think the opposite sex can in deed be friends, do you think you can be friends with the opposite sex that you're very much attracted to and vice versa? My friend and I were having this conversation the other morning and I'm pretty torn on the matter. I do have a male friend (I'm actually hooking up with him shortly), and we have been friends since we were 15. It's now more so a brother/sister type friendship. But what about kicking it with a fine ass guy and just calling him your "friend".. Can you do it?

Images by the fabulous Kaye McCoy of 7th Street Studio
 
Stay inspired ladies,
Lakeitha






2.18.2015

#30DaySnapBackChallenge

So back on January 10th, I started what I called my #30DaySnapBackChallenge. I didn't share much about what I was doing during those 30 days because I wanted to see if I could actually hold myself accountable and do it. I posted this picture as a "before" because I was hoping to actually work on my stomach


Here is what the "challenge" consisted of:
FOOD:
eggs and spinach
Salad with or without meat
Veggie and seafood (or chicken)
As much water as I can (close to a gallon)
Fruit (berries)

FITNESS:
Workout 5 days a week
3 days of weight training
2 days of cardio
Rest days work on core

 
MIND:
Limit social media
Read a book
Meditate
listen to podcasts (TD Jakes and/or Myleik Teele)

 
FUN/HOBBY
Work on projects around the house
Spend more quality time with boys
Read blogs
Write blog

 
FINANCES
30 day spending freeze


Soooo, how did I do??? Well, I failed. Starting with food, I did indeed eat spinach and eggs every morning (that's all I eat anyway!), but I didn't stick to the rest. I don't know if it was the chicken breast I was eating, but it didn't sit well with me. Maybe it was how I cooked it. Then, I didn't really have an appetite for seafood much. I want fatty meats all the time. What is wrong with me?!?! As far as the fruit, I did eat berries, but I mostly ate a nectarine every morning with my breakfast. I don't regret that at all because that nectarine helped me break free from eating 25g of carbs a day. Another thing, I started taking vitamins again and these are my favorite. I had to make sure I was eating a full meal before taking it, but it's a game changer for sure. Not sure if it's in my mind, but it energizes me!




As far as fitness, the first week, I did manage to do the 5 days and was very proud of myself. But then I realized that working out 5 days a week just wasn't for me anymore. The next week I did 4 and then after that, just 3. Do I mind doing 5? No because it feels good to do so, but my time is limited and even though it's just an hour, I need that extra hour at least two days a week. I managed to work on my core and glutes all gym days:-) Because I mostly did 3 days a week, I did manage to do weight training all days along with an average of 100 squats a day.






I failed miserably with the social media aspect of the challenge. I really need to fix that, but I like interacting with ya'll! I know that I need to figure out balance with social media... Maybe 3 posts a day? I didn't read a book, nor did I meditate, but what I did start doing was listening to Bishop TD Jakes sermons on Mondays. I don't think I'll ever stop doing that. I look forward to it now!
Can we just skip the no spending for 30 days??? I've been trying to do that for years and I fail time and time again:(


So what were my results from failing this challenge? Well, I started out weighing 168 and when I weighed in on the 12th of February, I was 170. And here is a picture of where I am. Left is January and right is February.



I don't really see a change and actually I'm quite disappointed in myself. What I learned by doing this is that I'm not as motivated as I once was. Could it be because I've reached my goal? I think so! I also think my discipline is fading a bit. So what's my plan now? To do less with more focus (something I'll discuss in another post). But what I know for sure is that I'm not a quitter and because I that, what was a 30 day challenge has turned into one that I'm determined to win! I'm starting over on February 21 and will update you once again:-)

So there you have it, me sharing my failure with you ladies!

Stay inspired,
Lakeitha

2.13.2015

Fashion Friday: Blushing





 












Jacket: The Limited
Top and Earrings: New York and Company (old)
Jeans: Levi's
Bracelets: Wrist Soirée

Friday the 13th... Or should we just call it the day before Valentine's Day? Either way, I'm calling it a great day! Am I the only one that's stoked about the movie Fifty Shades of Grey hitting the big screen today? Seriously, I swear I read all 3 books in 2 weeks. While everyone around me were all ewww and why, I was more like oooooh and ahhhh:-)
My husband and I are seeing it tomorrow. I'm surprised he's going, but I think he's counting it as a V-Day gift, ha! I'll take it!
 

I'm totally crushing on the color blush.  Seriously, it's everywhere and I think it's going to not only work for spring and summer, but it will easily transition into the cooler months as well. My favorite combo for this feminine hue is adding soft grey and black to the mix (and of course white!).
I suggest you adding a bit of this pretty color to your wardrobe if you haven't already. If you're not the pink type, try a scarf to start off. You'll thank me later!

Stay inspired ladies and happy Valentine's Day!
Lakeitha

All images by the beautiful Kaye McCoy!


2.11.2015

Because it's ok

I was talking to a friend earlier about something she had just gone through involving a guy. Basically, she held her ground and decided that what he was offering was not up to her standards and she let him know. Afterwards, it was a downhill battle of taming her emotions and me assuring her that she had indeed done the right thing. Side note: I hate that we're thousands of miles away from each other because this is definitely one of those times where I want to be by her side with a big bottle of wine and something good to eat so that we could male bash:-)

After our call, it got me to thinking about a situation I'm going through (or was). I've shared a little about an ex that played a huge role in my life. I mean HUGE! For the past 11yrs, I've been struggling to erase feelings that I've had for him and our past. It's hard. VERY hard, but I make it through mostly in part because I have a wonderful husband that swooped in immediately after that breakup and literally told me that he would never leave me. Even through all of my mess/baggage I had/have from my ex, his promise hasn't waivered. But after all of that time, shouldn't those feelings be gone???

Let's go back to that friend of mine... She repeatedly said she feels so stupid since they've only been talking for a few months. I mean, she was beating herself up without the help of anyone else.

WHY THOUGH???

Here's my theory, we've been programmed to think that certain things aren't worthy of our time and energy. You know, the time we put into feeling "some type of way"... I disagree. I think we first have to evaluate where these feelings are really steaming from. For her, I think she misses companionship and really thought this guy was the one. In my opinion, it's not even the guy she's hurt about not having, but more so the "once again, I have to start over" feeling. That sucks, right? Right! After a week or so, it's time for
 her to get over that, right? I mean really, they didn't have time to get all that serious anyway... But that WAS enough time for her feelings to be valid and it's ok for her to take all the time she needs to pick herself up and move on.

Back to me and my ELEVEN YEARS timeframe. Surely that's enough time to get over an ex, right? I mean COME ON... He's married, I'm married, and we're both happy. So why can't I just move the hell on? Well, my feelings are deeply invested in that boy. He was my first love. We shared a lot of firsts together and the memories that were made are some of the best times of my life! Does that count against my husband? Definitely not because I can say the same for us! But I'm at the point now that I'm tired of trying everything to " GET OVER" my ex. I don't want to be over him or what we had because you know what? It helped shape who I am today. Every. Single. Bit.

Why am I sharing all of this? Because there is someone out there 
that needs to know it's "O fucking K". Everything that you're feeling is ok. It's ok to feel, but it's not ok to pause your life because of a few heartaches. We are suppose to feel, but we're not suppose to be stuck in those feelings. When we are "stuck" in the feelings, we're not allowing ourselves to move on. For 11 years, I was STUCK in those feelings. Today I'm allowing myself to feel them and I'm assuring myself that it's ok, but I'm also allowing myself to finally move on. Accept and appreciate what was while keeping it close to your heart, but allow your heart to receive and appreciate what's truly out there for you.

Hope that makes sense!

Stay inspired ladies,
Lakeitha